Not apologising can be the best thing for everyone.

Not apologising can be the best thing for everyone 🔥🔥

Sometimes your repeated apologies are more painful than your repeated mistakes.

An apology suggests you feel guilty for what you did. Guilt is the emotion we feel to trigger change.

So, if you are not going to change, don’t apologise.

Saying sorry and not changing is emotional manipulation.

Saying sorry and not changing is providing false hope to the person you apologise to. You are hoping the person will love your future self. But you are not your future self. You are who you are today.

If you don’t trust yourself to change, don’t influence someone else to trust you will change.

If you stop apologising the person can either;

1) Walk away from you
2) Accept who you are and love all of you. So, no more guilt or apologies are needed

Either of these options provide a healthy path forward for both parties.

So often we experience relationship in the present hoping they’ll go back to how they were in the past. Or we experience relationships in the present, hoping they’ll be different in the future.

What needs to happen today, for you to live in the present with the people you love?

Tom