Betrayal can cause more psychological damage than grief and loss. The things that end up hurting us the most are the things we were convinced were true at all costs. Nothing leaves a scar more than totally believing in something with your heart and soul that turns out to...
Your kids don’t need to be taught how to be happy or what to do to get ahead in life. All they’ve ever needed is an example of someone being happy with themselves. Less teaching and more practicing. Less telling and more living. The only thing a child ever...
Every single day, you get the chance to run from yourself or to run towards yourself. Running from yourself leads to escapism strategies. These specific strategies often leave you feeling guilty or shameful after you’ve done them. In fact, that’s how you know you have run from yourself –...
Lockdown experiences are forcing people to be with themselves. Less avoidance, busyness, and ‘doing’. More sitting, noticing, reflection, thinking & feeling. Interestingly enough, the No.1 trigger to run an addictive pattern is the need to run from self. The need to avoid certain thoughts and feelings that arise when...
Here’s why! There are only ever two reasons why you drink alcohol. There’s nothing wrong with this but it may be helpful to know if you’re on an alcohol reduction journey. We drink to either; 1) Enhance an emotion. Or 2) Suppress an emotion. Alcohol is a resource people...
Learn to own your space, time, and energy without justification. You’re allowed to be anywhere, at any time, feeling anyway. The illusion that you can’t is the route of all suffering. The awareness that you can, is the gateway to all freedom.
Not apologising can be the best thing for everyone 🔥🔥 Sometimes your repeated apologies are more painful than your repeated mistakes. An apology suggests you feel guilty for what you did. Guilt is the emotion we feel to trigger change. So, if you are not going to change, don’t apologise....
Unable to ask for help? Finding it difficult to open up and share yourself? The key to overcoming this problem is by knowing this; Your ego is a survival mechanism. The fight or flight response kicks in whenever it can to keep you safe. KNOW THIS: It can’t tell...
You are either the creator of the change around you or you are chasing the change. Trying desperately to get ahead of the game. Clarify your future, take action in the present and always be one step ahead of the game. Holding onto the past prevents you from ever...
Many people are afraid, uncomfortable or simple just don’t know how to say ‘no’ to others. They end up constantly running behaviours & doing certain things that they wish they didn’t. They run out of time for….. themselves. The key to living life doing what you love is by...
What does the entrepreneurial mindset have to do with alcohol reduction? Everything! Entrepreneurial mindset comes down to self-leadership rather than reliance based leadership. Self-leadership: Walking the walk. Practising what you preach. Being the example Reliance based leadership: Needing people above or below you to do things for you to...
Our goal in life is not to reach sobriety Our goal in life is to Live With Choice So whether you choose to lower your intake, change your relationship with alcohol or even remain sober – My hat goes off to you. It’s time we stopped separating ‘addicts’ from...