If you get bogged down in the thought of “Should I drink or not drink tonight?”, chances are you simply have nothing bigger to worry about or be present for. Changing your relationship with alcohol isn’t about drinking less alcohol. It’s about building a life you want to be...
Until you give yourself the permission to have a drink, you’ll always struggle to figure out how to choose not to drink. So many people tell me I’m crazy for telling big drinkers to allow themselves to have a drink. But these people don’t realise, I’m not telling them...
I was interviewed by one of Australia’s most trusted journalists last week and here’s what they said to me – “Tom, can alcoholics live with choice like you?” It’s actually the most common response I hear when I tell someone DLFF is all about choice & freedom rather than...
If you’re anything like me, you may find it difficult to turn down a Sunday arvo by the water flicking through the craft beer selection or fancy champagne options. “I’ll just come down for a few cruisy ones” turns into a fun night with a cracking headache the next...
“I’m so sick & tired of how much I drink but I don’t want to be labelled an alcoholic or seen for having a problem’” This is the all-too-common thought thousands of Australian’s experience every day. The fear of being outcast, labelled, or even shamed for ‘having an issue...
Every time you drink to avoid dealing with life, you’re building debt. Stress debt. Alcohol seems to alleviate Stress in the moment, which it does. The Stress of the day seems to disappear – Fantastic, isn’t it? However, many don’t know this Stress is being stored to arise and...
It’s Friday. More often than not, the day all early-week alcohol reduction intentions fall wayside. The day our emotional need to ‘switch off’ outweighs our heart’s desire to wake up Saturday feeling clear-headed and fresh. The day we know we might break the commitments we made to ourselves, but...
Have you ever wondered why it’s easier to stay sober during Dry July or Sober October yet seem to struggle outside of these months? Here’s why. Dry July has been socially accepted by the Australian Drinking Culture and due to this acceptance, individuals feel safer or even supported to...
Don’t get too caught up in the uncomfortably inappropriate traditional approach to alcohol reduction. The approach that changing your relationship with alcohol is apparently more ‘advanced’ or ‘unique’ or ‘scary’ than changing your relationship with something like sugar or soft drink or chocolate or hot chips or… you get...
Want to dramatically reduce your alcohol intake? Forget about drinking less and focus on building a life you don’t want to run away from.Usually, specifically referring to these three areas; ✅ Create relationships you’d rather engage/interact with sober, rather than relationships you need to use alcohol to deal with...
Do you want to drink less alcohol, but you’re not too sure where to start? If this is the case, we can probably assume you are feeling unsure about what to focus on, and in the meantime, the clock is ticking by, along with more and more alcohol. Is...
Betrayal can cause more psychological damage than grief and loss. The things that end up hurting us the most are the things we were convinced were true at all costs. Nothing leaves a scar more than totally believing in something with your heart and soul that turns out to...